Top of the mornin’ to ya. This is Brian at LifeChampion.coach. When’s the last time you went out on a date? When’s the last time you went out on a date with your children? A couple of years ago I heard of the concept or the idea and started doing it and I do it–kind of seasonally. Where I’d take one of the children–we’ve got five, so it takes five weeks for me to get through the troops. But uh, had a date with my daughter, my 11 year old this morning and uh, just really enjoyed the time sharing together and playing tic-tac-toe. I’m demonstrating what a date looks like.
One of the questions I tend to ask, especially as I start a new season of dating my children is “what can daddy do better?” And I was expecting a few things like “don’t grab my hand and take me for a walk when I’m screaming at mother” or “don’t use your strong voice” or something like that. And the answer she came up with today was, “spend more time” … “I don’t know if you can do this, but spend more time with me” and that was spectacular. That was wonderful. That’s what I wanted to hear. After a moment of pondering and conversation. I said, well, what happens after dinner? And she’s like, “I don’t know. We do the dishes?” I said, you say, “Can I go to my friend’s house?” So we need to curb that a little bit if we’re going to have more time to spend together. So I went a little deeper and said, “Well, how can we spend time? What would you like to do?” Another easy answer for me but unexpected is “play Monopoly.”
So children dates are important part of growing a relationship. And then, especially with daughters, I’m demonstrating what an appropriate date looks like for when they get into their teens, etc. If you haven’t read it, um, you should read Meg Meeker’s book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, if you have any girls at home.
One of the times when I was on a season of dating the children, I think it was last year from January through the end of the school year, I didn’t date my wife. As May came around, I’m like, “Hey Leah, we haven’t gone on a date lately.” So don’t get out of balance for too long. I believe in counter balancing where you balance on something a lot for a season and then something else a lot for a season. So since that point, Lee and I have a date night set up every week And we do…sometimes it’s just simple small stuff. I’ll be at home and kicking their kids out, um, to their spaces and having that. And sometimes it’s more extravagant, fancy, multi-course dinner and a show.
Nurture your relationships, nurture those around you. And, if you haven’t done it, try starting dates with your children.
Top of the mornin’ to ya. Be Blessed.